Are your habits doing you a favour?

If you’ve ever been on a diet or read a diet book, the chances are you’ve been advised to keep a food diary; where very quickly you can see where all those calories come from. Well have you ever done it with your habits?

What are the things you do every day which actually help you feel nice. Is it that first coffee in the morning? Do you have to have a biscuit with it? Is it walking the dog before you head off to work or is it bringing your loved one a cup of tea in bed?

Start identifying your healthy habits – those ones that add something to your life and ged rid of the ones that make you feel worse. When you get dressed in the morning or when you look in the mirror are you nice to the person who you see in front of you or are you likely to give them a hard time? Really take stock of what you do.

Ask yourself if there are any habits that you would like to have in your life eg, leave your phone off the hook for an entire day, once a month or go somewhere where you could dance. If so, add them to the list and start incorporating them into your life.

Have some fun with these, that’s what its all about.

‘Being busy’ versus ‘being busy avoiding’

Its really worth identifying which (if either) applies to you.

Have you ever said that ‘you’re busy’ just to put off saying no to someone because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. The thing is, there’s the likelihood that when you’ve made your excuse you still have to deal with the remnant feeling of ‘having not been truthful’ to yourself.  Which one is worse? You have to live with yourself all of the time.

Its much better to live life by your own values and beliefs rather than trying to fit into how you think other people think of you. That way, they get the ‘real you’ all of the time. Armed with the truth, they can decide if you’re someone that they want within their network of friends or acquaintances. The plus side of this is that you also get to spend time with the people who mean something to you without having to put on an act.

‘Being busy’ is fine but also ‘being quiet’ is also good. Its gives us the time to be creative. However, in business when people ask how things are going there’s a reluctance to say that its actually quite quiet at the moment. There’s a fear that the other person may think that you’re no good at what you do. If you fall into this category, ask yourself what it is that you’re not facing up to?. What is it about being quiet that you don’t like?

Its not necessarily what you say but how you say it…

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Welcome to the Abbey View NLP Blog

This is the first post of the Abbey View NLP blog.  My intentions for the blog is to help make  the subject of NLP more accessible to everyone.  You don’t have to have studied NLP in any great lengths to participate, you just need to be interested in why it is ‘we do what we do’ . 

It wasn’t until I started training in NLP that I realised that I’d already come across some of its main principles during my other careers, only we just didn’t call it that. Prior to going out on my own in the NLP business, I’d had a 20 years + career within IT together with a previous career within the Women’s Royal Navy.  Now I specialise in coaching people going through change, be it in life, business or wishing to move towards a healthier lifestyle.   I love every minute of it.
My motto is that ’you’re a long time dead, so lets make the very most of the time we have’.  Could sound a little morbid to some people but I find it keeps me focussed on what’s really important in life.